I committed myself to writing every day when I retired from teaching. It was torturous, solitary work, so difficult for me to sit still for more than an hour at a time. I joined a writing group and then another. At it’s peak I was writing with groups nine times per week and, over several years, accumulated piles and piles of words, pages and chapters, poetry and prose, clunky and inelegant.
I was compelled to get the story down. How had I arrived at mid-life, with a past littered with mistakes, surrounded by love? How had I learned to love, and to be loved?
I finished seven drafts of the story before I let it sit idle. Too afraid to send it out into the world, I abandoned most of my groups and turned my attention to caring for an aging body (a compelling, full-time job all by itself).
But the story continued to percolate. I’ve started or rejoined a more manageable number of groups, and I am nurturing courage to send it out in small pieces. This is the first what I hope will begin a steady stream.
Before 10
Who would I be without the places I lived? Without the people in those places?
I carry Texas in my big bones.
Scranton in my heart, and
Oklahoma’s red dust in every breath.
Who would I be without Rary’s wide lap for my three-year-old head? Her thick fingers combed my hair, traced my ear, and lulled me to sleep.
Who would I be without Grandpa’s Irish toast and soft-boiled eggs for breakfast? His fingertips inky with newsprint, cigarette smoke spiraled into the coffee-scented morning. His permission to explore, climb, and jump while Mom was working.
I feel the imprint of Our Lady of Fatima Montessori on my four and five-year-old self. The long drive into the Poconos to spend each day with teacher-nuns in long black habits, rosaries dangling from waists. Their arms emerged like magic from oversized sleeves to hold and soothe. Their warm, intentional steadiness, and rhythmic heartbeats created a calm quiet. We set the table for snack, cleared afterwards, washed dishes, and swept the classroom. It mattered that we were there, seated in a circle, singing songs, listening to stories. Our work was play, our play was work, and nothing went unnoticed.
Four months in New Jersey might have been lost in the shuffle between Rary’s duplex on West Market Street and the new ranch house in the middle of the prairie. I learned to ride a two-wheeler on the rutted road that passed our rented cottage. Black cinder lodged so deeply into my knees; it might still be there.
A nightmare on repeat woke me each night: I fell into a deep, dark hole with no one to hear my calls for help, and I stopped calling out. We walked to school each day and home for lunch: peanut butter on wonder bread, a brown banana mashed for jam. I can feel it still, stuck to the roof of my mouth.
The stream beside the house in the woods in Oklahoma runs through me like blood. We watched storm clouds gather and threaten from the big wrap-around deck, then rushed to the basement to huddle under a mattress, while our ears popped, and windows rattled with the wind.
Beth and I spent long hours with sandstone boulders, in the shade of cottonwoods, our feet in the stream, toes caked in clay. We carved soft rock into bowls and animal shapes. We gathered dust of different colors to mix into paint on birch bark canvas. Our private art gallery.
My legs hold the memory of running through grass, slipping between strands of barbed wire into the pasture, jumping over cow paddies. We giggled at the huge creatures who sniffed our hands and rolled their tongues through thick lips to taste the grass we offered. We played house in sunken foundations filled with treasures of rusted bed frames, buckles, bottles, and broken pots and pans. We were Laura and Mary Ingalls on the great plains, and we had each other.
This was my life before the lost years, before the move to Indiana where memories are crumpled and squished like forgotten lunch in the bottom of a backpack, where anything, once good, goes sour and rotten.
Before an instinct for survival put me to sleep for decades.
Looking forward to hearing more about your journey back from the lost years, Linda.
This is beautiful - I would love to read more! I love the images of you and your sister playing, mixing different shades of dirty to make paint.